A running log from Dave and Ann Dedrick, who served five years in Mozambique with the One Mission Society (OMS).
Sunday, October 16, 2011
Heartbreak and Culture
Anyway, we couldn't get information from the family and Ann (and our dear team-mate Sharon - who has twins) were concerned that perhaps there was something more we could be doing. So, Ann and I with one of the leaders of one of our churches went up to the unit before visiting hours and were to meet the father there. We arrived first and even though we weren't supposed to be there, we are those ugly Americans who will talk to anyone. Fortunately we had a Pastor with us to help us with the cultural things. The first clue was that the baby's name was not posted on the hand-written list on the window by the door into the unit. The second clue was that we kept getting the run-around (indirect culture) in the folks we talked to (no HIPA here). Finally we connected nurse (Ann) to nurse and learned that the baby had passed away around 1 in the morning (it was about 1630 when we climbed the four flights of worn stairs). The family hadn't been notified yet as the visiting hours didn't start until 1730.
In the culture, they won't tell the parents this information - you must go through an intermediary. Had the father come up first, they would have told him nothing until an intermediary came. This may seem odd but in a culture where conflict is resolved through intermediaries, it is consistent. In our time here, we have seen how intermediaries can often deflect and disarm conflict much better than the directly involve parties, so we can see merit in this as we learn a new normal. So, because we were there, we became the intermediary and it was our job to tell the parents. Very very difficult and certainly a glimpse of cultural differences. The parents had no clue. The Pastor helped us with the clues and cues, but felt it was culturally our job and we have long learned to trust him. We thank God for this precious man who loved us through this experience knowing our hearts were heavy yet full of love.
We were waiting in our car when our friend came up and we had to tell him this heart-breaking news. He entered our car for the privacy it provided in a busy place. The grief was consuming and after a time of crying and praying together, we went to his car where the mother was waiting with the other twin, who is healthy and beautiful. Ann sat with her and told her this news. Then we all cried and prayed together again. After a time, the Pastor took them home where the family was assembling as notifications were made through text messaging.
In the culture, the next decision is whether to have a funeral / memorial service or to let the hospital "take care of things". A memorial service was scheduled, but then canceled at the last minute, as the hospital did indeed take care of things. It is different but in a culture where infant mortality is very high, and baby's are often not named for some time, to be sure they are 'ok', it is not so unusual and we've seen this before. It is different, it is hard, but can it be anything but hard? I pray our words were enough for that horrible moment in time, but more importantly that God's peace and comfort reigned in this deepest valley.
A very hard day and the parents will be expected to suck it up and not speak of it again. Very difficult, very different, but it speaks of cultural difference. It is important we don't judge - it is not wrong nor is another culture right, it is just different. The grief is real, it is huge, it is oppressing, and we must put our trust in the God of Hope, for there can sometimes be no words, no answers, and just our love for one another that overflows over a grief that is so strong.
Give them your presence and strength precious Lord. Accept this child into your arms and shower your peace, love and presence on this precious couple and their surviving baby. For it is only in you can we place our trust, even in the darkest of places. Amen.
Dave and Ann
"Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things." 1 Corinthians 13:11
"Finally brothers,...comfort one another, agree with one another....and the God of love and peace will be with you." 2 Corinthians 13:11
Friday, July 22, 2011
Being Still
Thursday, May 12, 2011
More Praise
Thank you for praying. Thank you for this answer to prayer that relieves us so as we make our final preparations to return to Mozambique.
Please continue to pray about our shipment. We still are baffled by the apparent inability to ship personal effects over to Mozambique because of Homeland Security requirements. So many people tell us, oh yes, we can do that, only to say latter, 'no, we can't because of homeland security requirements.' Crazy crazy times. We are continuing to pack, trusting God in even this mundane but necessary task. We are baffled. How can any small business even survive in the face of something as simple as this? We may be going back a whole lot lighter than we thought!
Photo is of us on mother's day with our 'neat kid' as we left her apartment to walk to church. What a wonderful day it was.
Dave and Ann
"I call on you, O God, for you will answer me; give ear to me and hear my prayer. Show the wonder of your great love..." Psalm 17:7
Baby Praise
Praise cureth much!
I wish we'd had baby praise back when our kids were that age (back when we walked to school in the snow up hill both ways....).
Dave and Ann
"Praise the LORD. How good it is to sing praises to our God, how pleasant and fitting to praise him!" Psalm 147:1
Graduation
This is our youngest who spent nearly half a year in Mozambique working at a school before we ever got there. She reminds us that she was there before we were. She also has a good understanding of what we do and some of the challenges we face because she's 'been there, done that' so there is an unsaid understanding that only those who have walked the same path can sometimes understand.
Isn't that in a way what God did for us? - the infinite creator, who walked along side of man, experiencing what we experience including the unfairness of life like we do - for what could be more unfair from the human perspective, that the very son of God would come to earth to do such good, to heal many, to feed many, to teach many, and yet, be treated with such contempt, to be unfairly tried, beaten, and crucified; He knows how bad it can be first hand. We are blessed to have a mediator who understands on loves us so radically.
Congratulations to our precious Allison. What a joy to be there for this important life event.
The following pledge was taken by the nursing students. It would be a good pledge for all of us who are in ministry, teachers, counselors, and for all those who seek to serve others in our human frailty:
I solemnly pledge myself before God and in the presence of this assembly,
to live my life with integrity and to practice my profession faithfully.
I will maintain confidentiality and continue to elevate the standard of care.
I will do what I can to alleviate suffering, prevent illness, promote healing, and will do no harm.
With dedication I will endeavor to uphold the ethical, scientific, and legal standards of my profession,
and devote myself to the welfare of those committed to my care.
The Nurses' Pledge - Author unknown
Dave and Ann
Wednesday, April 27, 2011
A Great Sermon
Anyway, I was really moved by the teaching and thought some of you might enjoy it if you have 30 minutes or so and want to stream it. I wish there was video included so you could see the passion in Pastor Jason's eyes and his style. Here is the link:
We had a great day celebrating Christ's resurrection, spending time walking around the lake at Furman University with Al and Bryon and just continuing to enjoy spring. And of course, Allison is a cook beyond belief and we had a fantabulous Easter meal. God is good to us.....all the time.....
Blessings.
Dave
Saturday, October 30, 2010
Man's Best Friend
There is another thing we left behind when we went to Africa, the family dog. I had gotten this dog primarily for Ann when our youngest went to first grade – so she has been around a while! There is nothing like a dog – they teach you what loyalty, devotion, and unconditional love can look like. After we left for Africa, daughters 1 of 4 and 3 of 4 shared taking care of her and she ended up being a city dog in down town Philadelphia, a far change from the comfortable suburbs. They did a wonderful job with her in our absence.
Earlier this year, two of our daughters wrote to us saying that ‘it was time’ to put her down. She was very old and we think she has had a stroke in the past months. She was blind, mostly deaf, arthritic, incontinent, and very frail. She paced all the time, just couldn’t get comfortable and was just plain miserable. Our oldest daughter was waiting for us to come home on furlough before doing anything and the last few days we have been able to spend a few days with the dog, making it obvious that ‘it was time’.
So this morning, we took all seven pounds of her to a vet recommended by the people we are currently staying with and the vet put her to sleep in my arms. The vet took one look at her and no more needed to be said – she knew it was time. First they put her to sleep and gave us 10 minutes with her. It was wonderful to see her relax for the first time since we’ve been around her as she was suffering so. Then a second shot finished the job. I managed to be strong until I got in the car and then I just sobbed uncontrollably.
Some friends of Krista are letting us stay with them as we visit churches on this side of the state. This dear couple has been such a blessing to us and allowed us to bury our little dog in their garden. We thank God for their kindness. Their daughter has just gone to Uganda for a three-year assignment and is struggling in her first few weeks there, and we can really relate to what she is going through and hope we are being an encouragement to both her and her parents.
Tough morning. I know intellectually that she was just a dog, but that doesn’t change how your heart feels. And yet, one person a part from God has infinitely more value - why is it we have less compassion for them than for animals? I thank God we can rely on His pure and perfect love for us, for even when we were sinners, His one and only Son, died for us, the perfect sacrifice for the sins of man.
We’ll miss you Sophie-girl. Thank you Lord for all the pleasure this creature of Your creation brought to our family.
(photos are of Sophie in her younger days!)
Dave & Ann“And everyone who has left houses or brothers or sisters or father or mother or children or fields for my sake will receive a hundred times as much and will inherit eternal life. But many who are first will be last, and many who are last will be first.” Matt 19:29-30
Monday, September 27, 2010
Traveling
Saturday, August 14, 2010
Life events
Tuesday, August 10, 2010
Wedding
Saturday, July 17, 2010
Cheedee & Nauhnee
Tuesday, January 12, 2010
Travel
Greetings dear friends. It has been so long since we've written but our internet access has been very spotty. Right now I'm sitting in the Dulles International Airport waiting on our flight back to Mozambique - boards in a little while. So far the travel has gone well and I cannot express what a wonderful time of rest and refreshment we have had. We needed it much more than we realized. I have alot of stories to tell but that will come later - diving in a Septic tank on Christmas morning with my son-in-law and future son-in-law, Ann's flat tire and the guardian angel who stopped and helped her, rescuing daughter three when her car gave-up the ghost (four tow this year), and the wonderful people that God put in our path this trip. Pray with us that our luggage will come through and our transit in Joburg goes well; it is always a challenge there. Our bags were broken into coming this way - we pray they go back without the same problems.
Friday, December 11, 2009
Safely Here
Wednesday, September 2, 2009
Short Cuts
This note is especially for my four precious pearls! You know how your dad likes to take short-cuts – and is always looking for a new way to get somewhere? Well, it’s been especially fun here to find new short cuts (and be a bit confused for a couple of hours afterwards – like “where am I?”), especially during the days of confusion after coming from the northern hemisphere to the southern hemisphere. You know, just like the time I took a short cut home from the airport in Pittsburgh and we ended up in West Virginia! However, my internal compass has finally reset and I do finally know what direction is north, south, etc., so the being lost phenomena has decreased considerably.
Today we took Aimee out to meet our head OMS advisor, who works at the Nazarene College outside of Maputo. We drove in to town to pick her up and then headed out to the college to show her the ropes, introduce her, and also show her the nearby Baptist College where the director’s wife has a literacy program she is doing with the wives of students who come from remote areas of Mozambique. (Aimee has a great interest in literacy programs as her focus is women’s ministries). We toured both schools and met the various people at the schools, hopefully opening future partnership doors for Aimee. However, we knew we had to be back for our language class at 1300. It had taken us about an hour to get to the school because of some construction and traffic issues, and as we were leaving, one of our Nazarene friends mentioned he could be at CAM School (our missionary school) in about 20 minutes. I said “no way” and he explained his short-cut. He told me they had just completed a paved road that went straight to the coast and that we were only about 5 km from the coast. I had to scratch my head, thinking that it was possible – and I knew some of the area between the school and the coast – so, he gave some directions and with 45 minutes until class, we left the second school, with me a little panicked to think it was even possible to make class on time. So, we headed down the sand roads, second right, third left past the wall with eucalyptus trees and vines with fruit hanging over the wall, and onto a new paved road, and boom, we were at the coast and in a few minutes, dropped of Aimee at her house, and made it to class with five-minutes to spare. He also told me about another one I’ll try another day! I felt like I’d gone through some sort of time warp or something. Thank you Lord!
And then, after all that, our Instructor said, “what are you doing here? You have class on Monday, Tuesday, Thursday, and Friday, not today” Oops – we mis-communicated that somewhere along the way. We readjusted for next week, but he was busy today - so after all that – no class.
On the way home, we stopped at the body shop to see if our car was ready (we’re using a rental and wanting to dump it as fast as possible!). I talked to the guy who took the car into the shop (it’s quite large – lots of wrecks here every single day!), and reminded him about the car. He looks at me and scratches his head and looks out at the shop and says “I’ll call you by the end of the day”. Not a good sign – where is the car…..Of course he didn’t call at the end of the day so we’ll stop by tomorrow and at this point I’ll have to insist on seeing the car! Gulp!
Our Advisor today told an interesting story to our new missionary. He advised caution as she moves forward. He pointed to a picture on the wall and spoke of a lady from Gaza province, who had been to the United States for a conference. When she came back, she spoke to the school there and said that she had never understood Americans. Her view was that they came here and acted peculiar and arrogant, always trying to push their culture and ideas on everyone. However, now that she had seen the houses they lived in, where they slept, how they ate, where they worked, and how they lived, and she finally understood what the missionaries here had given up to come live to Mozambique. She said she could have never understood without seeing what she’d seen because if you’ve only lived in one place, how could you possibly know what it was like somewhere else. She finally understood that it would take have to take a call from God for someone to leave America to come live here. So, our advisor then cautioned us to recognize that in ministering to those in the villages, and especially to the older of society, that there is absolutely no way they can understand where you have come from and your frame of reference. However, you are here, and you can, through asking questions and participating in culture can, over a long time, begin to understand and to be understood. However, the cultural gap is very large and will likely always be large. He said that God has called us as we are – we should not try to be someone we are not or could never be. We are giving the most important thing we can – ourselves. We discussed this some more as honestly, none of us felt that the cost of the things she had mentioned (the houses, cars, food, and the like) were things that we ever thought about as ‘giving up’ as we gained so much in other ways. The true sacrifice was not being with our precious pearls and we are so thankful that even in the last three years, we really have been able to visit with you, that you’ve been able to come here, and that we could talk on the phone - so more than we ever imagined would be possible and truly a blessing.
As another example, he talked about the Shanghanna word for human. The word actually refers to a Shanghanna person as a human and it doesn’t apply to other people. Other people would be Americans, Makua, Chinese, Lomwe, Mexican, etc., but you wouldn’t apply the ‘human’ term to them. This is a cultural phenomena that explains a lot about the southern culture of Mozambique and some of the conflict we’ve seen between southern and northern people groups. For example, if you act inappropriately relative to the Shanghanna culture, it is relatively tolerated because, well, you aren’t ‘human’. So, if you come in and try to say “you need to clean up how you handle your water because it makes you sick,” they might listen to you until you leave out of respect for visitors, but then go back to the old way because, after all, how do you know? You aren’t ‘human’. You must take the time to develop the relationship, and it is best to work with an intermediary, such as someone in the culture who has been educated and has an understanding of what you are trying to do. However, this person is critical to your success and must be chosen very carefully and very prayerfully, for your ministry to succeed. Wise counsel from a wise man.
I have pondered this counsel all day and have reflected on how we used to live in the States and how in our ignorance, we couldn’t really begin to fathom life outside of America because that was the only reality we knew. I wonder if culturally as a nation, we are also looking beyond our borders and starting to assume others ‘aren’t human’. It’s something we’ve seen through history, the dehumanizing of people groups, and is it a subtle trick of the enemy. But, I’m getting off-track.
We weren’t the world travelers that you guys were!, and even after a few short and carefully orchestrated trips here, we couldn’t possibly understand the living conditions and culture here in Mozambique until we lived it and experienced it. And even now in our third year, I recognize that it would take a life-time to fully have the understanding we desire and the language we need to move fully into community. But in the meantime, we need to try and be all things to all people so that some might learn the truth. There are no short-cuts for this work.
Blessings to my precious pearls. I love each of you dearly and thank you for your steadfastness, your faith, your love, and your gracious patience with your missionary parents. Our absence does not diminish our deep and abiding love for each of you. Not a single day goes by that you are not on our minds and deep within our hearts.
PS - I thought you might enjoy the photo of us with Juka (and me trying to smile. ;-))
Dad
“To the weak I became weak, that I might win the weak. I have become all things to all people, that by all means I might save some. I do it all for the sake of the gospel, that I may share with them in its blessings.” 1 Cor 9:22-23 (Paul’s advice to all of us).
Monday, July 27, 2009
Medical Update
The politics of it all are also quite interesting. My daughter was refusing to go to the hospital because she didn't have insurance and could have died if a friend hadn't forced her to go to the hospital. She didn't have insurance because the insurance policies for low income people are basically unaffordable. Employers take advantage of using part-time employees so they don't have to pay benefits but do so because they generally can't afford the added costs and stay competitive. Non-profits aren't required to offer a program where you can pay for and carry insurance on a child after they are no-longer eligible for the parent's policy (the COBRA option many of you are familiar with and that we have used before we came to Mozambique). The IRS rules don't consider this kind of a thing 'charitable', so OMS and our church base are unable to help because of potential trouble with the IRS (i.e. offer tax-deductable receipting) - and so here we sit with a breath-taking medical bill. Healthcare is truly a problem and I'm seeing it from the other side of insurance for the first time in my life. I can see the thread of government through all of this and have little confidence they can unwravel the twisted thread. If I knew the answer, I'd write the book, get a presidential appointment, and use the proceeds to pay the bill!
We're not alone. We've received a number of emails from others who have found themselves in the same boat. All of the mail has been encouraging in that God will and does provide and we stand faithfully on that. In some cases the final bills were in the hundreds of thousands of dollars and were resolved eventually. Our problem is small by comparison. And until the negotiations are complete, we don't even know the true size of the mountain.
We'll just pray this mountain into the sea!
And what just breaks my heart is that I live in a country where so many in the villages have no access to health care - none; where someone's equally precious daughter would have just died and even more tragically, died without even hearing the Gospel, without even having a chance to respond to the reason for the hope within us. Come quickly Lord Jesus.
"So Jesus said to them, 'Because of your unbelief; for assuredly, I say to you, if you have faith as a mustard seed, you will say to this mountain, ‘Move from here to there,’ and it will move; and nothing will be impossible for you.'" Matt 17:20
"And who ever said life was fair?" Dave's response to his daughters when they would say "it's not fair!"
Monday, July 20, 2009
Out of Surgery
Sarah and Krista are handling all the details and I'm holding my breath on the bill. She is in the gap group - Since OMS is a non-profit, they don't have to offer COBRA and so when she came off our insurance, there were no realistic options for us other than to pray for a decent job with some benefits in an economy where bottom feeders are cruising around. It was a gamble and as in all my experiences with forms of gambling, it came out the way it normally does! Buy high and sell low - right? However, the sisters are checking into various options through the hospital and so we look forward to seeing how God will work in this. I think I have four of the most amazing daughters that they can deal with this as a united group and care for each other like they do.
I am so thankful number 3 daughter is recovering and it wasn't more serious (such as a burst appendix). I'm so thankful she received good care. I'm so thankful her old room-mate (Polly) was so attentive to her needs and insisted she go to the hospital. Lynsey didn't want to go because she didn't have health insurance! There is a cultural statement! Of course, it weighs very heavily on us - we made choices in response to God's Call on our lives and here is an emotional and human cost that makes what we do very difficult. We may have left our four precious pearls in the States but there was certainly no less love or concern for each of them. I really think there are very few who really understand how deep of a cost this is to us.
On another topic - we met with the Mozambique coordinator for Evangelism Explosion today. This Mozambican pastor is going to work with us introducing this program into our seminary classes and we hope into our churches as well. It is the same program that we are intimately familiar with from the States except that the program is in Portuguese and it doesn't include all the slick stuff (memory cards and the like) to help keep the costs down here. So, we purchased our first 40 books and will be introducting this into the curriculum right away. Ann is quite an expert on the program actually and really engaged the Pastor about the program and how it works in Mozambique.
What we worry about is something we've seen quite a bit here. You can go in and offer all sorts of training, and people love to come and participate and attend, but then no one seems to do anything with it. We've seen that with our Chronological Bible Story Telling for example. It's an excellent program and we've done lots of training on it and provided lots of books and pictures for people to share with their friends and churches, but very few seem to actually take it and use it. We don't want Evangelism Explosion to be the same thing - we train lots of people, but then they take the material home and put it on the shelf. That's where the Spirit of God is so important - to put the desire in the heart to share their faith. Without it, it is just another program. Another key seems to be lots of practical application - something we need to focus more energy on.
Blessings!
Dave & Ann
Sunday, July 19, 2009
Sunday
So here we are - helpless. And to top it off, the Internet isn't working well so we're making phone calls instead of skype calls - running up costs quickly. And that isn't working well as our local cell phone carrier only works about half the time. And our text messages aren't going through - which has been an inexpensive way to get basic information relayed. All of our normal venues of communication are failing. And we've been feeling low for a while now for a variety of different reasons and this is like one more hot knife in the gut. Lord, help us understand. Protect our precious one.
And if just the event isn't enough, she has no health insurance because she is no longer on ours and has no job that pays insurance. So, here we sit. Do we stick Ann on the plane or not?
It's all so daunting on so many levels. Our hearts are so heavy.
I feel like we have been under some sort of attack for so long now and the attacks come from every possible place. Heartbreak, unwarranted criticism, and betrayal have had taken a heavy toll on us. This day continues as one of immense battle, heartbreak, and questioning. In many ways, our time here since returning last August has been one of heartbreak followed by heartbreak, followed by heartbreak. And yet, we know that He remains faithful; we know He called us here. My advice to anyone considering missionary service would be to be confident in the Call - as without it, the work is truly impossible, the emotional cost immense. But there is great peace being under the shadow of His wings and moments of amazing awe when we see His hand move for we can truly do nothing absent of Him.
In this morning's devotional time, I was studying King Hezekiah and trying to understand better why God looked upon him with such favor, describing him in 2 Kings 18 as "Hezekiah trusted in the LORD, the God of Israel. There was no one like him among all th kings of Judah, either before him or after him. He held fast to the LORD and did not cease to follow him....he was successful in whatever he undertook." In the account in 2 Chronicles, 29-31, we see a pattern: he took action to restore the nation before God, there was a time of consecration where the leaders and the people repented and returned to the Lord, and THEN, the Bible says that the "hand of God was on the people to give them unity of mind to carry out what the king and his officials had ordered, following the word of the Lord." That was followed by worship and a time of great blessing. And his life is summarized in 2 Chronicles 31: 20 and 21 as follows: He did what "was good and right and faithful before the Lord his God" and in everything that he undertook, "he sought his God and worked wholeheartedly - and so he prospered." Tremendous lesson in all of this.
He was resisted, maligned, and not everyone followed. But, there was great blessing that started with seeking God and working wholeheartedly - the same words God used to describe King David, who God loved.
May we be so faithful to trust God. Truly trust God.
Show your hand dear Lord, in our lives, on our precious daughter, in the fragile work that we do for we love you and seek to be obedient before you. We have laid our lives before you - please show your hand of mercy.
Dave & Ann
"In You, O LORD, I put my trust; Let me never be ashamed; Deliver me in Your righteousness." Ps 31:1
Thursday, July 9, 2009
Segunda filha has parted
Monday, June 29, 2009
Anniversaries and Birthdays

exceeded the capability of their model-T computer they use at the pre-school and for church. In the photos, we'd taken apart the two computers and did some switching around of things and got the information all transfered and everthing working. We do this work during nap-time at the pre-school but sometimes a few wake up a little early and so we get some extra help! So, we upgraded their Model-T to a little bit more modern computer but still an antique!We have really enjoyed showing David and Sarah around and trying to give them a glimpse of our life here. They have gone to meetings with us, meet with people at their homes, David has played some soccer with local youth and met with others in the roads and pathways. He's such a lovely young man and I enjoy very much how he looks at things and have learned much from
him in his short time here. For example, he has left us a DVD set they used in Lebanon to train their team on witnessing to Muslim people. Today, when we met with our Christian Micro-Enterprise Guys, we talked about some of the techniques and they stated that they really don't run into too many in their day-to-day life because they tend to be more upper class here (business owners). That was a surprising comment that I have to think about more. Ann and I have had many opportunities to talk with them through some of our car problems and business dealings and are always seeking out good techniques for sharing our faith in an effective way with our Muslim neighbors and friends.
We have enjoyed our morning devotions together with David and Sarah and are absolutely relishing each day. But sometimes those days are quite unpredictable. The last two days have been special - yesterday was our 34th wedding anniversary and we enjoyed spending the day with David and Sarah and that was a wonderful present for us. Today was Ann's birthday and it started with some meetings at our seminary but when we arrived, the lock to the door had failed, and no one could get in the building. So, we tried to find keys to the other door, traveling back to our school to search there, then to the Weils house, where we found our Seminary Director's
old keys, which we used to then open the seminary (other doors). Then we dismantled and repaired the lock and so went the morning! Expect the unexpected! I worked with our building custodian on the lock hoping that maybe next time, he can do this himself!
off at her ladies bible study group while the two David's did some birthday preparations (nothing like the last minute!). Eventually, we all found our way home to finally have birthday cake. Ann has been smiling alot more lately - so happy to have a daughter with her.